Below we have listed the special programs offered by SCSH to the Oahu community. Our compassionate therapists would love to present their wide range of expertise with your school, company, organization etc. Please see our listed programs and presentation subjects to best fit your needs. Please note that community presentations must be requested two weeks in advance. We are looking forward to meeting you soon.
For Marriage by Certified Scream-Free Therapist
From the best-selling Scream-Free marriage and Parenting books, learn how to stay calm in the face of common marital conflicts and discover the tools necessary to creating and enjoying a deep, lifelong connection with your partner. Stop “screaming” at each other, be it out loud or slightly screaming by shutting down and shutting your partner out. In Liqpay, we teach couples how to embrace conflict to strengthen a marriage. Conflict can actually be the exact experience people need to help then grow and find new levels of maturity and intimacy that they have always desired. By simply learning the ScreamFree formula of Calming Down, and Getting Closer, you too can end up with a closer and more loving marriage. By taking notes and using work books the viewer processes at a deep internal level the changes that are needed in the marriage to make the marriage better and stronger.
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This program is offered FREE of charge for community members and military members and their families. Workbooks are not included but are available for purchase*
Shown first Sunday of every month, and runs 4 weeks in duration prior to restarting each month.
Start time is at 10:30 a.m.
“Good parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family. It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to learn how to change your family for the better. Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents. If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge. What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what.” Excerpt from Scream-Free Book Review
This program is FREE for military members and family. Workbooks not included but may be purcshaced.
Marriage is a HUGE step and relationships change after marriage and over time. For those who want a comprehensive review of what it will take to make your marriage the way you dream of, our program has been designed with you in mind. Each phase of the program can be excluded by clients request for those who believe they will not need that aspect. This allow for a timely and customized approach to your marriage program. The full program is twelve sessions. Sessions are typically an hour depending on topics covered and client history.
In part one of this program we will provide you and your partner with many written assessments. These assessments will look at where the two of you are in agreement and may uncover some areas where you don’t agree or did not even think to ask about. Examples would be on issues of faith, money, child rearing, unemployment, communication skills, sexual history, and personal past issues.
Some example questions might be:
How much time will you spend with the family vs your spouse and how will you rotate holidays among your two with families?
What is your role as a spouse (don’t confuse with responsibilities like working, home chores and providing food)?
What rituals do you have to make up after a argument?
Will you raise the kids to go to church and what church and how offten will they attend?
Who is going to be responsible for home chores such as laundry, taking out the trash, dusting, mopping, yard work?
How are you going to split or combine your checks and bank accounts and just who will be responsible for paying shared bills like rent and unities?
Do you think emotional cheating is as bad a phsycial cheating and will an affair on anyones part consitute a divorce?
Everything is up for review and discussion to help ensure that the two of you are on the same page across important marriage issues. After you should feel like you have learned a thing or two and with a deeper understanding of who your partner is and what it will be like being married to them. Typically lasts between 2-3 sessions.
In part two of the program we review basic communication skills and conflict resolution skills that are often needed in healthy functioning marriages. After we will act out common marital conflicts and resolve them using the learned skills. We then review bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman’s work on the 5 Love Languages ending with fun homework tasks for couples. Typically lasts 1-2 sessions.
Part hree of the program is optional. We review the very popular Scream Free Marriage/Parenting program used in civilian and military populations world wide. Emphasis is on key concepts and attitudes needed for each partner to succeed in the marriage. This is done by a ScreamFree Certified therapist. Each program lasts approximately 4 hours. Total session time will be about 5 sessions.
In your last session we look at each partner individually and as a pair and fine tune thoughts and behaviors by teaching basic cognitive behavioral skill help create a happy home. Typically this means having a discussion about what each person wants in the day to day experience of their marriage and uncovering unspoken rules and what it will take to fulfill those desires.
The course concludes with a certificate of completion from Serenity and a special customized gift for the engaged couple.
It is often the case that married couples wait until divorce is an option to work on their marriage as a last ditch effort to avoid divorce. Many come in for standard therapy treatment. However, some cases may be more serious and in need of more intensive help. If you and your spouse are seriously thinking about getting a divorce, we offer a unique emergency based intervention program designed to help you save your marriage. This program is tailored to meet your individual marriage needs. In general the program offers intensive therapy services three times a week, with two therapists. This allows each spouse their own personal therapist and provides the couple with a second opinion and view point on how to save their marriage. In general the program looks at adjusting communication skills within the marriage, conducting a need based assessment of both spouses, anger management training, our ScreamFree marriage and parenting program (see more on this above) and other interventions as needed to try and save your marriage. Price may be discounted for those with insurance. Please see our rates for this service on our Get Started Page.
